“Signpost For Balance In Love And Work” by Vicki Bennett And Ian Mathieson , IBCパブリッシング（ラダーシリーズ Level 2）, 2007
[Reading Journal 2nd：読書日誌]
“Signpost For Balance In Love And Work”（恋と仕事にスグ効く英語 １００）
ラダーシリーズの“Signpost For Balance In Love And Work”、日本語名「恋と仕事にスグ効く英語 １００」を買ってみた。英語名の“Signpost（道標、道しるべ）”とあるように、本書にはいろんなことに対する道しるべ的なものが、１００個書かれています。
Chapter 1を見ると“How To Meet The Man Of Your Dreams”となっています。そう、この本は、女子向きに書かれているのです。しかし、ご安心ください。それは、Chapter 1くらいで、後、あまり性別は関係ありません。
本書の目的は、というと、ちゃんと最初のIntroductionに書かれていました。
This is a special book because it offers two different gifts: the chance to develop your English skills and the opportunity to learn a positive mindset. （抜粋）
１００個のSignpostは、基本的に１ページ（２ページにわたるのは数個）で、短く切れていて読みやすい。ラダーシリーズのlevel２（１３００語）ということもあって、１話、２分～３分で読めました。
内容とレベルの紹介として、” 14 Listen Before You Talk”を抜粋する。
14. Listen Before You Talk
One of the best ways to have a good relationship is to learn to listen to your partner. Most people do not listen well. They wait for the other person to finish speaking so they can say something in reply.
It is important to be able to speak well, to say clearly what you think, and to have a clear and even voice. However, this is only one half of being able to exchange thoughts and ideas.
The other half is to be a good listener.
When someone else speaks, give them your full interest. Look at them, make eye contact, and show them that your care about what they are saying.
Remember to show respect to the other person by being a good listener. （抜粋）
この本は、アメリカ的なポジティブなことをいろいろと書いているんだけれども、ここchapter 14 は、いわゆる傾聴法について書かれているんだと思う。著者 さすがによく知ってますよね。”聞く”ってのがコミュニケーションの肝ですが、なかなか難しいっというのが現実なんですねぇ。
傾聴法については、東山紘久の『プロカウンセラーの聞く技術』とか、東畑開人の『聞く技術 聞いてもらう技術』に詳しく書かれているよ。（つくジー）
○基本情報
ラダーシリーズ Level 2
使用語彙 1,300語
総単語数： 15410語
関連図書：
東山紘久 （著）『プロカウンセラーの聞く技術』、創元社、2000年
東畑開人 （著）『聞く技術 聞いてもらう技術』、筑摩書房（ちくま新書）、2022年
CONTENS
Introduction
Chapter 1. How To Meet The Man Of Your Dreams
1 Be Natural And Meet The Man Of Your Dreams
2 Love Yourself First, Then Romance May Come
3 Understand What Man Want
4 Don’t Rush Into A Relationship
5 Be Willing To Receive Love
6 Do Special Things For Your Partner
7 Be Gentle
8 Have An Open Heart
9 Enjoy The Journey Of Love
Chapter 2. You Can Create A Happy Relationship
10 Know The Type Of Relationship You Want
11 Know The Type Of Man You Want To Marry
12 Leave The Past Behind You
13 Believe That Every Relationship Is A Chance For You To Grow
14 Listen Before You Talk
15 Plant The Seeds For Being Equal
16 Don’t Fast-forward Your Life During The Bad Parts
17 Revenge Won’t Make You Happy
18 Respect Values
19 Set Rules For Anger
20 Be Willing To Be Afraid Sometimes
21 Know When A Relationship Is At Its End
22 Value Your Past Relationship
23 Forgive Quickly
Chapter 3. Let’s Set Goals For Success
24 Set Goals For Yourself
25 Keep Your Goals In Mind
26 Use Both Sides Of Your Mind
27 Look Into The Future
28 Use This Bedtime Exercise
29 Excite Your Dreams
30 Don’t Give Up Hope
Chapter 4. You Can Have Happy Days
31 Have Happy Days
32 Understand What Is Good About You
33 Forgive Yourself And Others
34 Notice What You Do Well
35 Look At Yourself From The Outside
36 Learn To Control Your Thoughts
37 Accept The No One Is Perfect
38 Understand Anger
39 Think About Now, Not The Future
40 Think About Now, Not The Past
41 Be Less Critical Of Yourself
42 Laugh Often
Chapter 5. Be Happy And Successful At Work
43 Talk With Your Fellow Workers Often
44 Be The Best You Can
45 Receive Compliments At Work
46 Speak Out When You Need To
47 Choose Your Words Carefully
48 Work Well With Your Business Team
49 Understand Body Language
50 Live Life Fully
51 Know That What You Do For Others May Well Come Back To You
52 Learn From Your Mistakes
53 Ask For Help
54 Believe That Your Actions Are An Influence For Others
55 Think Creatively
56 Set Goals For Your Career
57 Use Dreaming At Work
Chapter 6. Create Great Friendships
58 Accept Love And Kindness
59 Be Honest In Friendships
60 Listen To Your Feelings About Other People
61 Listen To Yourself
62 Show How Feel
63 Find Someone To Listen To You
64 Don’t Pass On Gossip
65 Be Positive And Generous To Others
66 Do More Kind Things
67 Don’t Compare Yourself With Others
68 Like Yourself As You Are
69 Learn To Deal With Disputes
70 Find Your Own Style
71 Make A Difference To Other People
Chapter 7 . Grow Your Talents
72 Find Your Talents
73 Listen To Your Feelings
74 Do Something Different Every Day
75 Share Your Passion
76 Find A New Interest Or Skill
Chapter 8. Care For Yourself
77 Care For Yourself
78 Say ‘No’ When You Need To
79 Let Yourself Cry Sometimes
80 Be Careful About What You Read
81 Turn Off The TV, Turn On Your Music
82 Clear Out Your Wardrobe
83 Think Before You Buy ; Do You Really Need This?
84 Like Your Body Now
Chapter 9. Make Time For Relaxation
85 Make Time For Yourself
86 Be Calm
87 Learn To Breathe Deeply
88 Learn To Relax
89 Do Often What You Like To Do
Chapter 10. Discover How To Be Energetic
90 Find Your Favorite Exercise
91 Eat Right And Well
92 Care For Your Body
93 Drink Enough Water
94 Don’t Work Too Many Hours
95 Keep Your Mind Active
96 Create Positive Energy
97 Think About The Things You Want
98 Choose Positive Words
99 Be A Person Who Take Action
100 Break Through Your Fear
Postscript
Word List
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